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ARE YOU CODEPENDENT?

  • Are you having trouble with personal relationships?
  • Are you having trouble controlling your emotional nature?
  • Are you a prey to misery and depression?
  • Are you having trouble making a living or do you hate your job?
  • Do you feel useless or low self-esteem?
  • Are you full of fear?
  • Are you unhappy?

Qualifying questions: Codependence is a complex problem and we are going to qualify the codependent from many different aspects of the illness and how it affects our lives and the people in our lives. The following qualifying statements will help you decide if you are one of us.

How many times people have said to us:

  • "I can walk away or shut up. Why can't you? Why do you have to get into such obsessive thinking and act out in crazy behaviors?"
  • "Why don't you speak and act like a healthy person or quit the relationship? You say this person triggers you, why do you engage."
  • "That person can't handle her/his emotions in a relationship."
  • "Why don't you try casual dating or less frequent visits, lay off the heavy commitments or conversations."
  • "Your willpower must be weak." They allude that we can stop the behavior if we want.
  • "You can get out of that relationship if you wanted to."
  • Your family is so nice, or your children are so wonderful, I would think you would stop the acting out with obsessive behaviour for their sakes", or they will plead with us to leave an abusive relationship.
  • The doctor or anyone else who cares for you said you will die from a stress related illness or violence if you go back into that situation with that partner, family member, or those friends, yet there you are right back into it again.

Now these are commonplace observations on codependents which we hear all the time. Back of them is a world of ignorance and misunderstanding. We see that these expressions refer to people whose reactions are very different from ours in relationships.


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